Action speaks louder than words?

Every now and then, everyone goes through this phase. I've been there a couple of times, but yet it doesn't seem easier. Being brought up in a family where verbal expression of love is rarely used, I have somehow grown to seek it. Just like my riend Judith laughed when she saw me hugging a pillow while sleeping. She said maybe it's because I didn't get hugged a lot a a child, that I'm making up for it now.

There is still a sense of disbelief in me when I've heard the words I wanted to, but yet can't see the actions that support it. But yet, when there's only actions, and the words are contradictory i.e. I don't love you but I do all these nice things all the same, it is just as disturbing as well. Time and again, I try to convince myself that the actions and words will eventually support each other one day, but it is rarely so. I think I can even count with one hand, the number of times my parents have said "I love you" to me, and vice versa. I easily type out "love" in emails and text messages, but saying it out is something else. Is it better to go for actions alone, and forget about the words? But what do we do if we need to hear those words? Isn't that what communication is about? We can't live a life always trying to guess what the other person is feeling. I know I like it very much when friends compliment me,and they tell me they enjoy spending time with me. It's a confirmation of the good times we had, and I know for sure they enjoyed it as much as I do.

I believe it's the actions behind the words that has the power to impact someone's life and most importantly express love for one another! It is a risk and a sacrifice to measure up the actions with the words. Words are easy, but sacrifices have to be made to put the actions together with it; and actions are easy, but risks have to be made to express your vulnerability by saying what you feel.

There is a need to find a balance between words and action, and that's something I would want to learn, and I feel is very important for developing a good relationship with anyone. There will be people who might hurt me along the way as I open myself, and they don't appreciate my time, love and attention, but I will become more alive and open to life and understand the true meaning of love.

Christmas is all about love. A baby boy who grew up and showed us what true love means. Share your love with others this Christmas! Merry Christmas everyone! Remember Jesus is the reason for this season!!